Taylor Swift made a career out of singing about her heartbreak. And in an interview she even told the interviewer that if a guy didn’t want bad things written about him maybe he shouldn’t do bad things.
To me, truer words have never been spoken.
But I don’t often have bad things happen to me. I’ve only been cheated on once. That I know of. Occasionally a guy disappears off the face of the planet, but I usually don’t care enough to be bothered by it anymore. And then there was this strange fish and this jerk. But those are anomalies in my world (Unfortunately for me. Looks like I dont have much of a shot at being an older version of Taylor)
I write mostly about my feelings and how I am responding to my circumstances. But I don’t live as an island, other people are obviously entwined in what I write. I’m a writer, it’s what I do. People in my life are naturally subjects of what I write. But where does a writer draw the line, what is off limits?
The last guy I dated knew I was a writer. He encouraged me. he knew that sometimes I would get out of bed at 3 am if I had a thought that inspired me to write. He knew I was taking it seriously, so wouldn’t it also go without saying that he will be a topic of my writing?
I’ve been working on a play, and part of the play is an exaggeration of how we broke up. It doesn’t make anyone look bad, it’s just a honest and relatable breakup scene. In addition to the play, he also inspired me to start this blog and to deal with my feelings publicly.
I may be writing about my feelings and my story, but these men are obviously characters in the story. They’re wrapped into it, and probably not by choice. Honestly they probably don’t even have a clue that I am writing this. (Dear God, please do not let them find this. Yet.)
I’m not trashing anyone, I’m not even identifying anyone. But are there certain things that are considered off the record, even though no one has ever said “this is off the record”?
I have done theater my entire life and I consider myself an artist. I do not believe an artist should censor their art, that’s a big muse buzzkill. I think your life is fair game to draw inspiration from.
But I am curious about your opinion? Do you believe some things are off limits or over the line? Or is it all fair game as long as no one gets ID’ed or hurt? What do you think?